I have been feeling a little out of sorts for the last year or so.
My youngest is going into middle school in the fall of 2016 – no more kids in grade school – now what am I supposed to do?
I was great at being the mom of a grade school child.I know how to deal with scraped knees, math facts and playdates.
Now I have a tween who gets surly when we make her come out of her room and a teen who is not home that much (except to eat and sleep.)
When they were younger we would do something fun together as a family almost every weekend.
- We ate dinners together.
- We had the occasional game night.
- We talked to each other.
Suddenly all of that seems to have disappeared and I am not quite sure how it happened, or what I can do to get it back.
I know that kids get older, in fact when they were toddlers I could hardly wait for them to be old enough to play on their own, dress themselves and stop leaving destruction behind them wherever they went.
But now that I am here I am not quite sure how to be a parent anymore.
I know I am not comfortable letting our culture tell them who they should be and how they should act.
I find myself in the position of wanting to lead 2 people who have no interest in following. (I think any parent of a teen can relate.) At the same time I also find myself searching for more meaning in my life and wanting them to have more meaning in theirs.
As a result of this search I discovered Matthew Kelly -an author and speaker who has really impacted my life.
I have read his book, The Rhythm of Life and found it life changing. He outlines how to become the ‘best version of yourself’ in this book and I have been working hard in the last 6 months to put those ideas into practice.
One of his recommendations is to spend 10 minutes a day reading something important, something that challenges me to think and be a better person. So I have been doing that, off and on. I have kept a journal to highlight the thoughts that really touched me that particular day in my reading and sometimes I will just go back and read those notes.
Now I feel like I want to take this to the next level and share what I have learned with others.
I am not about to start preaching at you about how you need to go to church, eat more vegetables, get more sleep or exercise more. I know we are all busy and we are all in a different place in our lives. You don’t need me to tell you what to do to make your life better.
What I want is to do my journaling online now. I am hoping that in sharing my thoughts with you I help you to be a better parent and a better person, at the same time I am helping myself.
I thought Matthew Kelly’s book, Building Better Families. might be a good place to start.
If you want to read the book too, Here is a link:
(In the interest of full disclosure I will get a small commission for each book that is purchased through this link.)
Please join me on this journey to building a better family.